Do you wonder where the passion went in your relationship? Do you ask yourself how things got so bad between you and your partner? Why are you fighting all the time? Or does it feel like you are strangers passing in the night? Do you find yourself thinking that maybe you’d be better off moving on, but then you worry that maybe you haven’t really given things a full out effort? Ask yourself, what role models did you have for marriage-like relationships? Were they examples that you feel represent the kind of relationship you aspire to? If not, are you willing to learn other ways? Is your partner open to working on restoring your relationship to health? If so, couples counselling is for you.
Couples relationships have natural patterns that do not represent our expectations. We grow up watching movies that show fairy tale relationship structures that are not realistic. When couples start to experience problems, they think there is something wrong, but all couples will need to find ways to navigate differences if their relationship is going to continue to grow beyond the initial honeymoon stage. Couples counselling is a great place to grow your relationship skills, expand your ability to bridge differences, and achieve lasting fulfillment that cannot exist without effective ways of navigating the reality of relationships which always means there will be times when you are two different people wanting different things.
When working with couples, I use my mediation skills to identify patterns of behaviour and communication that are negatively impacting the relationship. I also draw upon counselling research and models. I have completed the level 1 and level 2 Gottman Method couples therapy and I use this training in my work with couples to help them better understand the areas that they need to address to improve their relationship. I also use interventions derived from Emotionally Focused Therapy, the work of Dr.Ellyn Bader and Dr. Peter Pearson and Martha Kauppi’s training called Assessing and Treating Sex Issues in Psychotherapy. I am committed to ongoing learning and I am always enrolled in couples training programs to further expand the skills I can bring to you as your couples therapist.
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